Why Work/Life Balance WON’T Fix Your Relationship
All successful people know you can’t get extraordinary results without doing extraordinary things. Without going above and beyond the norms of the masses.
Time, effort, sacrifices.
So when two driven people are in a long term relationship and share that same appetite and ambition, their relationship is inevitably going to run by different rules.
If this is you, then you probably KNOW that aiming for work/life balance is a non-starter…and may even cause MORE stress through stifling your ambition.
It’s a mythical unicorn you’ve given up chasing.
But this doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed to scrape by on scraps of attention and be eternally starved of intimacy and emotional connection.
There’s a better way.
Try Balancing The Relationship Dynamic Instead…
When time and attention are limited, the experiences you create together matter even more.
You have to make that time really count by being intentional with it.
Now this doesn’t mean getting so granular with your schedules that it sucks all the spontaneity out – it’s about looking at the default patterns which have crept in and are making things feel samey and stale.
It’s a holistic approach which enables you both to
The Four Energies of a Healthy Relationship Dynamic
A relationship dynamic thrives best when 4 main energies/ingredients are present:
Harmony –
Polarity –
Grounding –
Play –
The exact blend of these is going to look different for every couple, like a fingerprint. And the truth is that a healthy dynamic is shifting – never static.
Learn more about these special energies below:
Grounding
Is all about individual stability, own identity and sense of self. It’s a sensible, feet on the ground energy that’s building in the present for future you.
Harmony
is the couple energy of communication, collaboration and shared vision.
It’s the energy of teamwork and pulling together.
Polarity
Is what creates sexual tension, opposing personalities.
It’s the energy of attraction, magnetism and desire because it creates distance.
Play
is light-hearted and spontaneous energy of fun, adventures which is mostly about the here and now.
It’s creative, buoyant and freedom loving.
Why Your Relationship Feels “Off”
Sometimes a relationship can get stuck in one particular energy or pattern – that’s when it feels boring, routine or negatively stuck on repeat.
Partners who spend too much time proportionally in their own groundedness may find themselves lacking in harmony and play.
What you designated in the diary as “quality time together” might be detrimental to your dynamic if you only ever sit and watch netflix without saying a word. This could be described as “cosy companionship” but lacking in sexual tension or spontaneity.
Or maybe things are spicy, exciting, and unpredictable at first – but then fiery arguments and chaos become the norm.
It’s not a pass or fail thing – more of a continuum.
They become lopsided lovers, falling mostly into one or two “modes”.
I’ve developed an assessment which will enable you to determine what the unique blend of energies is in your relationship, and how it affects your dynamic.
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