You Didn’t PLAN this.
No one WANTS to drift away from their partner
No one makes a conscious decision to let things slip or slide.
To follow distraction and forget desire.
To prioritise their inbox and put off intimacy.
But it happens.
Quietly, subtly, and without anyone really noticing.
The truth is you are so busy troubleshooting and firefighting to stay ahead of the game at work, that you didn’t notice the embers are quietly burning themselves out at home.
Nothing’s Really Wrong
But it isn’t quite right either.
You can’t pinpoint exactly WHEN the little touches, the “in” jokes and secret couple codes started to fade out.
And you miss them.
Because you KNOW you love each other and you desperately want to recapture what you had…what you know you STILL have.
If you knew how to go about it, you’d fix it in a heartbeat.
You’ve Tried…But Nothing’s Really Changing
You know talking isn’t really getting you anywhere because you just keep going round in circles. One of you wants to sit down and figure it all out while the other doesn’t think there’s anything TO figure out.
Or maybe you’re both dodging the real issue – that you never really seem to make the time any more.
That success and building a legacy have somewhat taken over, leaving less room for loving and living life.
Things aren’t SO bad that you’re thinking about therapy and you’re nowhere near considering separation – but you DO know you do want things to change.
You’ve tried the vacation and the date nights, and while they gave a temporary lift, afterwards you both just slipped back into the same busy routines.
If this sounds familiar, I want to reassure you you’re not alone.
And it’s perfectly possible to turn things around.
What Most Couples Don’t Realise About Intimacy
Intimacy, desire – and ultimately sex – in a committed relationship are downstream from a whole host of other precursors and prerequisites:
- Physiology
- Emotional state
- Stress levels
- Routines and rhythms
- Attention and affection
- Communication and conversation
If these are neglected, mismanaged or taken for granted as is not unusual with driven, successful couples, then intimacy dries up and sex is off the menu.
And when one partner draws attention to this, it can start to feel like blame.
Salsa dancing is a fun, practical and low pressure way of building all these precursors and prerequisites back into your lives – setting the scene for more effortless intimacy which just flows.
It’s a movement medicine which goes beyond words, and one which I’ve devoted my life to breaking down and teaching to those who want to experience human connection on an entirely different level.
Couples Who Dance Together Stay Together
The FIND Each Other Prelude Session is a 90 minute private VIP discovery session where you’ll explore how the unique shared language of Salsa dancing can help you reconnect and reconfigure your unique relationship codes.
It is an exploration for those interested in doing the deeper work within my intensive or long term programmes.
That said, there is a lot of value here and big shifts potentially created.
You’ll be introduced to the principles that are the foundations and guiding stars of all my programmes which keep me on track with my own life, dance and relationships, and how I use them to create powerful bonds and deep connection on and off the dance floor.
Why it Works
The elegant space of my studio creates a safe “sandbox” environment where with my guidance you’ll explore your relationship dynamic in an entirely new way.
It’s not about talking a good game, saying “yes” in all the right places, and then drifting back to the same default patterns.
It’s about being present, experiencing each other differently, and seeing a new side to that person you thought you knew inside out.
For the right couples, it will provide a new, nuanced avenue of communication within your relationship, giving you fresh tools to express yourselves.
(And this isn’t to say talking through issues is unhelpful or unimportant – just that creating new patterns is an essential step in breaking the current, dysfunctional rhythms which have become your default.)
It’s much easier to make progress by uniting around a shared goal than it is by picking apart each other’s shortcomings.
Who it’s For
Find Each Other is not the answer for MOST couples – but it will work for a certain type of couple who do not have conventional lifestyles by mainstream standards.
It’s specifically designed for driven, high achieving, successful couples who find themselves leading mostly separate lives and are missing the closeness and intimacy they once shared.
It’s for those who wish to take their chemistry and connection to a new level and is the first step towards being ready for my deeper, long term programmes.
It’s also for those who want to feel more free and spontaneous with each other, and want to break out of the current staid and stale status quo.
For this programme to be a good fit, the following need to be true:
- You are a couple in a long term relationship
- You’re driven, discerning and determined
- You’d love to feel more chemistry, connection and restore intimacy
- Learning to dance has been discussed, maybe attempted previously, or is on the bucket list
- You’re equally invested in the relationship and the idea of dancing together
- You want to dance exclusively together and hate the idea of mainstream group classes
- You want an experience that’s been carefully crafted and highly personalised.
- You value privacy and discretion
Who it Isn’t For
This won’t be for you if one partner has emotionally checked out of the relationship already, or you would describe things as “rocky” or “volatile”.
It’s not for those who are looking for a mainstream, weekly Salsa class wher you learn a few moves and mingle with a bunch of strangers.
It’s not going to work if only one partner is really into the idea.
It’s not for those who cannot find time for each other anywhere on their schedules, or who have little ownership over their own time allocation.
Join the Waitlist
I typically only deliver one or two of these sessions each month as the bulk of my time goes to my existing clients, so I have a waitlist from which I select the couples I want to work with.
My selection is made based on the quality and depth of your application, and how ready I perceive you are for my full programmes.
No prior dance experience is required, however both partners must be fully invested in the process.
Once your application has been accepted I’ll reach out to let you know and arrange a mutually convenient date and time.
The investment for the session is £399 and at this point you’ll be invited to take care of payment.
If this sounds like it could be the right path for you, click the button below to complete the application form.